RVing as a couple for a lengthy amount of time, especially full-timing, is a romantic idea in itself. Sailing down the open road with your favorite person next to you, being each other’s constant in an ever-changing environment, and having all of the time to soak up the beautiful sights and adventures this big world has to offer will make any famous love story pale in comparison.
That being said, there is another side of the situation to consider. Traveling in a small space with the same person 24/7 is bound to lead to a fair share of stressful moments when you simply cannot stand the other person. It inevitably will test your relationship together, especially when it comes to the romance department.
Because you’re around each other nearly every second of everyday, it’s important to be intentional about keeping your spark alive and making your relationship a priority. This will help you thrive in your travels together and strengthen your bond tenfold.
To help you out, here are a few tips on how to keep your relationship alive on the road:
Remember Some Space Is Healthy, Even While RVing
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder” is a true, albeit cliche, sentiment. Too much togetherness can lead to tension, especially when the two of you are occupying the same confined space. Taking some time apart from each other will not only help you both grow individually, it will also help you feel the desire to be more playful, flirtatious, and thoughtful with one another. You’ll have time to miss the other person, helping to reignite the passion when you do reunite later on.
While it’s not as simple to take alone time as it would be if you lived in a traditional home, it’s far from impossible. Here are a few ideas to try out:
- If you are pulling a travel trailer with a truck, get setup at your RV park or campsite, and have one of you go for a drive or explore the town (if one is nearby) while the other one can relax at home. Trade off who leaves and who gets to relax in the RV.
- Take a hike or walk by yourself. Explore the area.
- RV/Motorhome rooms are a great way to expand your living space.. These “rooms” attach onto your awning, creating an additional, enclosed area. This allows you to be in proximity with one another while still having your own private space to read, nap, listen to music, or simply enjoy the solitude. You can also set up a tent next to your RV, make it soft and cozy inside, and end up with a similar effect as the awning room.
- If you’re traveling through a city or town, park your RV in a safe spot, and go your own separate ways for a few hours. One of you can sit down and surf the net at a coffee shop while the other one does a bit of shopping at nearby stores.
Split Chores in a Fair, Even Way
There is nothing that kills romance and breeds resentment faster than arguing about who is doing more than their fair share around the RV. In a small space, dirty dishes can create odors quickly, and a small amount of clutter can be hard to ignore.
To combat any issues that arise from this, define a clear strategy of who is responsible for what. Maybe you want to split the chores right down the middle, meaning one night you do the dishes and the next day your partner does.
Some couples find it works better to split the responsibilities based on each partner’s strengths. One person may be more mechanically inclined and will want to take on the upkeep of the mechanics and appliances, such as dealing with the water tanks. The other partner may have a more detailed eye for cleanliness and organization and will like to be responsible for keeping the interior neat and tidy.
However you do it, the point is simply to divide chores in a manner that both of you agree is fair and even. This will help simplify your life together as well as prevent tense arguments down the road.
Small Surprises Make a Difference
Surprises help keep relationships fun, fresh, and exciting. A surprise acts as a loving gesture and shows your partner that you are actively thinking of ways to make them happy. More than anything, doing or giving something unexpected is a creative way to break up any relationship monotony and also tighten your intimacy and connection as a couple.
Surprises don’t have to be huge or expensive, either. To help get your creative juices flowing, here are a few ideas on how you can surprise your partner on the road:
- Create a playlist with all of your significant other’s favorite songs, including a few that mark a special moment in your relationship. Whether you’re lounging in your RV or sailing down the road, make sure to start playing it when your partner least expects it. You can even bring a wireless speaker on a picnic and start playing it from your phone.
- Tell your partner to stay in the RV while you decorate the area underneath the awning or around the campsite. Candles, a fancy table cloth, and a nice bottle of wine or champagne are all doable embellishments you can use to create a relaxing outdoor dining area. Take the time to cook a nice meal, and bring your partner outside for a romantic dinner for two.
- Take turns planning a surprise date for the other one. Take the time to plan a special event that the two of you can enjoy, but don’t mention any of the details to your partner except the time (so they don’t make other plans). For example, you could research a beautiful hidden gem area for boondocking, or reserve a spot at a luxury RV resort. Then when the time comes, drive your significant other to the spot, and notice the look on their face when you unveil the surprise. Trading off being the planner and the person who is surprised will help keep your relationship lighthearted and lively.
- If you want to go with something simple but sentimental, you can take the time to write a note of affection (e.g., 25 Things I Love About You) and attach it to your lover’s cup when you bring them coffee or leave it on the bathroom mirror for them to find on their own.
Plan a Weekly Date Night
Be consistent about setting aside time together. It may seem like all you do is spend time next to one another, but there’s a difference between crafting quality moments and sitting on the bed while you each are transfixed by your phones or laptops.
You weekly date night doesn’t have to be anything elaborate. Here are a few easy suggestions:
- Watch your favorite show or rent a movie, fix together your favorite snacks, and snuggle next to each other in bed with a bottle of wine.
- Set aside a time that you both agree to ignore all texts, calls, and emails so that you can meaningfully converse with one another.
- Get some board games together for a game night.
- If the weather is nice, sleep outside of your RV, looking up at the stars.
- Occasionally indulge in a night at a comfortable hotel or a luxury campground. It doesn’t have to be weekly, but treating yourselves to an RV park that has indulgent amenities, such as spa and massage services, can add a romantic touch.
It doesn’t matter what you do; the point is to just set aside time to remember that you are a couple, not just travel buddies.
Practice Loving Behavior Even When It’s Hard
Traveling together can bring you close together and make you extremely comfortable in each other’s presence. This is great, but it’s important not to get too comfortable with each other.
Sometimes when you spend so much time with another person, you can get complacent and won’t hold back any of your words when you fight, which can be damaging. Just because you’re around each other 24/7 and can’t really run off anywhere isn’t an excuse to say hurtful things.
It’s important to be self-aware when you’re arguing and still showcase respectful and loving language. Learning how to effectively communicate is the key to any relationship, so hold onto those skills when you’re on the road.
Continue to Make Goals Together While RVing
One of the signs of a strong relationship is when two people continue to talk about and plan for the future together, no matter how many years they’ve been together.
It will help keep your relationship fresh and purposeful if you set some mutual goals to help each other achieve. Whether you want to save for a new RV model in a certain timeframe, or you want to climb a certain amount of 14ers over the summer, accomplishing something together will reinforce your bond and give you both something to celebrate.
When you meet a goal, agree on a reward you’ll use to glorify your achievement. For example, if you reached the five mountaintops you set out to summit, celebrate with a fancy dinner or a weekend soaking at a beautiful hot springs. You’ll feel inspired by each other’s willpower and proud that you both succeeded.
RVing as a couple can be one of the most rewarding and romantic experiences you could ever embark on. Having time to see jaw-dropping locations and go on life-affirming adventures will bring you together like nothing else will, but it’s a lifestyle that also comes with its own set of challenges. If you take the time to laugh together and make an effort to sprinkle some romance on your daily treks, you should have no problem conquering both the world and your relationship.